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The Brown Family
The Browns, Jim, Monica, Weston, Joseph, Timothy, Christianna, Elaina, Victoria, Alonna and Joshua. WELCOME TO OUR BLOG!

4/30/12

Adoption


A Friend asked me About Adoption

here is a modified version of what I wrote to her. ..

 Would you and Jim be willing to share your adoption story with us (e-mail or phone is fine)?  yes and we created a youtube about it, too

We're interested in children from infants-4 years old, maybe siblings. we feel best about adopting younger children and don't have much info (from us) on older than 5

We don't know much about adoption or where to start. If you know of placement centers that have worked well for you or others you know, we would be interested. Also, if there have been some places you've heard to stay away from that would be helpful as well.  We know each experience is unique, but we need tons of advice.  we used European Adoption Consultants because we tried to adopt through the state of Texas and had two boys for 2 years and could not adopt them. . .lots of challenges there and no way to parent biblically when they are not your own.  We applied to adopt from the very beginning and were told to take the boys and in 30 days they will be legally free to be adopted. . two years later they were not free and it was actually closer to 5 years later before they were legally free
adoption is not a cake walk. .. you need to be very strong spiritually and in great unity (and stay in unity) with your husband. . .ours were 13 months (the twins) and 23 months when we got them and the girls have been ALOT of work - WELL WORTH IT WORK - but ALOT of work.  Their cause and effect isn't as well developed as I would like. . .but it's coming along.  I am ordering a book that I might pass along to you and we would be glad to visit with you.  

If you are a FAITH FILLED believer and you are growing in your knowledge of the Bible and you pray and will speak LIFE over your children and pray against any strongholds from their past, you will do fine.  If you don't know anything about speaking life or breaking strongholds, you might want to study up on that.  Someone told us a few weeks ago that we are the only couple they know that has "sweet" Russian children. . .all the others are sending their children off to military school. ..and we have no need for that or intentions to do that. . we run a tight ship and have GREAT results overall. .. though as I said, it's been work.  Some people adopt children and won't discipline them and that doesn't make sense to me.  But then again. ..I have devoured the Bible and I know what it says and I have looked into the meanings of the words and I am not confused about what I am doing and I am not afraid of the future or of my children.  I hope this makes sense and I am intentionally being bold with you because I do not want anyone to take this process or idea on lightly. . .would I do it all over again. . .yes and I would like to right now, but I am 3 months  pregnant ( :  so instead I'll have a new baby this fall. . .but I would DEFINITELY do it all over again and if God allows, I will do it again.

Love, Monica